Update: Jewel Diamond Taylor
12 Pearls from Jewel Diamond Taylor

1) The easy stuff in life does not teach us much. Adversity
reveals your strength and teaches you how to be creative,
resourceful and humble.
2) Ideas never work unless you do.
3) Don't take God's grace, your income, love, health and peace for granted.
4) Your children watch you more than they listen to you.
5) You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to.
6) Winners train. Losers complain.
7) Look for the lesson and opportunities right where you
are. A pearl is often found in an ugly shell.
8) Write your goals and dreams down. Anything not written down
is just a wish.
9) A person's greatest emotional need is to be appreciated.
10)You attract 4 things into your life..1) what you love, 2) what you
fear, 3) what you expect and 4) what you prepare for.
11. Action is worry's worst enemy.
12. Procrastination is a thief. Little messes ignored become big messes.

Stay in the Light,
The Self-esteem Dr.
Jewel Diamond Taylor, Conference Speaker and Author

November 4, 2002
You're required to take a test before you receive your license to drive.
But there is no test required before you get your license to marry someone.
The test comes after you're in a relationship.
Common mistakes to avoid are:
1) setting your standards/expectations too high or too low,
2) getting into a relationship too needy, too fast, too naive,
3) not discussing your financial/career goals,
4) rushing into sexual intimacy (good sex does not equal love),
5) being in denial about his/her marital status, bad credit, addiction,
temper, gender preference, children or ex from previous relationship,
incompatible interests, immaturity, circle of friends that have "trouble"
written all over them, starting a long distance relationship,
money problems and lack of spirituality, etc.
It's easy to get into a relationship but difficult to end.
Relationships bring tests, change, compromise, comfort, conflict, joy,
love and growth. Make sure you're really ready for the commitment.
now how to love yourself and take care of yourself before you start to
love someone else.
Relationships are broken or built on little things.
Here are some suggestions to build a stronger relationship:
1) Make that phone call in the middle of the day just to say,
"I was just thinking of you and wondering how your day is going."
2) Guys open the door for your lady instead of using the remote
door opener, 3) Prepare that favorite dish instead of ordering out
for pizza, 4) Leave a love note on his/her voice mail or in the purse,
brief case, Bible, the car dash board, 5) Brag and compliment your
mate in front of others, 6) Say something nice about your spouse in
front of your children, 7) Go with your lady to make sure she gets her
mammogram, 8) Surprise your mate and fill up his/her gas tank or
wash the car, 9) Don't go to bed angry at night, 10) Choose your battles
wisely. Some things you just need to let go. Your mate wants to come
home to a castle, not a hassle. 11) Even though you've been together
a while, continue to "date" your mate. Avoid becoming boring, lazy,
forgetful and predictable. 12) Pray together keeping God in the center of
your
life.. 13) Play together. Keep the laughter and leisure in your relationship
to maintain balance, longevity and your sanity.

October 28-
There are usually two reasons people do not achieve their goals:
The goal wasn't really that important to them,
or they didn't break it down into small manageable steps.
When you do things out of great love, passion, enthusiasm and
commitment rather than great expectation, more comes back
to you than you could ever imagined.
You may get inspiration from watching others,
but your motivation comes from within.
Your opportunities and breakthroughs can come from the most
unexpected places and people.
. Accept responsibility for the quality of your life.
· Ask for what you want.
· Act on what you want.
· Affirm what you want.

Nobody is going to care as much about your success and "wants"
in life as much as you do.
Procrastination is a passive decision to do nothing.
Procrastination is a thief!

"Champions aren't made in gyms. Champions are made from something
they have deep inside them - a desire, a dream, a vision.
They have last-minute stamina, they have to be a little faster,
they have to have the skill and the will.
But the will must be stronger than the skill." - Muhammad Ali

by Jewel Diamond Taylor,
Motivational Speaker and Author of:
1) Success Gems (motivational success guide)
2) Sisterfriends (women's issues, relationships, parenting, finances,)
3) You Are Too Blessed to Be Stressed (increase your faith,
reduce worry and stress)
4) Don't Give Up (perseverance/motivation)
5) 100 Ways to Lose the WAIT (break the habit of procrastination)
6) It's Time to Bloom (self-esteem recovery)

 

You'll make yourself sick, angry and depressed
if you constantly think and debate about the outcomes
in your life that can't be changed or controlled.
Make a list of the things you can change. Start there
with some action and a plan.
You only lose time and energy if you continue to whine,
wait, worry, weep and wish things were better.
Instead of telling God about your big problems,
tell your problems that you have a big God.

Stay in the Light,
Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivational Speaker and Author

Don't Give Up

Change is a part of life.
Life isn't always fair.
People and circumstances can change without notice.
Remain focused yet flexible.
If you can't cope with change or adversity,
it will stress you out.
Be proactive vs. reactive.
Instead of complaining, look at your options, stand on your faith and remain optimistic.
You may be discouraged but not defeated.

The lyrics of India Irie's song "Strength, wisdom and courage" speak to my heart and soul. During troubled times you need strength, courage and wisdom to make it through until your change comes. To make better decisions or to speak up instead of suffering in silence, you need strength, courage and wisdom. To let go of a loved one or to heal from an illness or addiction, you need strength, courage and wisdom. You'll need them for your job seeking or completing your studies. Instead of saying, "why me, why now or what's next?" develop the strength, wisdom and courage to endure.

"Don't be afraid. Just stand where you are and watch and you will see the wonderful way the Lord will rescue you today. The Lord will fight for you and you won't need to lift a finger." - Exodus 14:13

For more inspiration, go to www.stay-inthe-light.com

Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivational Speaker and Author - The Self-esteem Dr.

 

Stay in the Light

Sometimes life will flip the script and you can find yourself in situations you never thought you would be. Life will change without your permission. Your health, business, family, relationship, money or job can take a turn. When adversity comes, it can make you or break you. When this happens you
must dig deep for your faith, strength, courage and wisdom. Some things you may be able to cope with and some things will change you. Some things you can change and some you must simply endure. Some circumstances will challenge you to speak up, get up, think up, bounce back up, stand up and never give up.
Whatever you're going through you can choose to be bitter or get better. You can choose to whine, wish, weep, worry and wait. Or you can take a stand that you will not be defeated...discouraged maybe, but not defeated. Delayed maybe, but not defeated. Taking positive action lets God and everyone around you know that you are serious. I'll always remember being a speaker at a conference and hearing Dr. Maya Angelou say during her keynote, "Don't whine and complain, you're letting everyone know there is a victim in the neighborhood."

Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivational Speaker and Author,

 

Success Gems

I have learned the hard and expensive way that the two greatest enemies that I personally must overcome are depression and procrastination. I have also discovered from interacting with my audiences, readers and counseling clients that these two enemies are dominant hindrances in
their lives also. I have learned that true change and success can only happen when I don't deny or depress my feelings. Acknowledging my feelings is the first step to healing. The second step is
taking responsibility for my thinking and actions. I can choose to remain stuck in my misery or get up, speak up, think up and never give up. When pain, loss, guilt or anger happen most people want to hide from others, hide from God and/or hide from their own true feelings. Many people go to great
lengths to avoid pain or solving their problems. People hide in their addictions (food, drink, drugs, shopping, casinos, work), sleeping too much or sleeping with the wrong person to soothe their emotional pain. Depression and procrastination won't make your problems and pain disappear.
In all three of my books (Sisterfriends, Success Gems and You Are Too Blessed to Be Stressed) I offer insights and solutions for depression and procrastination.

Only you are responsible for the quality of your life. Don't live like a victim. Don't hide. Don't run. Don't give your power away. Don't give up. Don't allow the enemy to rob you of your success, blessings and joy. You're not alone. Only the strong survive! Develop a winning attitude, perseverance, strength, wisdom, courage and patience. "So let your patience grow and don't try to squirm out of your problems. For when your patience is finally in full bloom, then you will be ready for anything, strong in
character, full and complete." James 1:2-4

Jewel Diamond Taylor, Motivational Speaker and Author,